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perception, emotion, ideas, and life. they all mix well together -- shaken not stirred as how James Bond would like to have it. however the normal geeky person like me would prefer a little of each and every thing not related to what I actually like doing. i'm talking about the dynamics involved in dating, life, friends, and things like plays and poems.

however, i also tend to believe that life is meant to be lived as well as not put to waste. and aside from wanting to do a lot of things and a few things that i have to do, i think life is full of things that you put in it. i believe that my life is what i make it, and by some predefined and discreetly and non-obvious plan which is beyond my comprehension, is meant to go somwhow this way. this doesn't affirm any religious theories that have been fed to me by my past scholarly experiences, however this is something that people have more or less come up with in relation to trying to explain things that is beyond them.

now im blabbering. :) however this blabbering is not all that i have in mind. i also want to take note of the joy you feel when you actually get to know people more, albeit just by observation. getting to know a person more by seeing that person as is, is as important as knowing background information about that person. and most of the times, research plays a big role especially if it's obviously required.

knowing nothing about something is really a daunting feeling, and especially if that something is another person. so as a mental note, i will keep in mind that before i get to know more about a person, i'd at least get to know something about that person. so that the conversation and the experience moves in a productive and interesting direction, background knowledge is most essential. :)

anyway, im tired and still chillin'...

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